My Selfie Dilemma: Not Sure of My Face in a Blogger’s Word

I am new to blogging. And I love it! Most of 2016 I was a contributor to a very well established blog and was able to write on a regular basis about all things being a mom.  I got some great feedback from readers and realized I might actually have a voice that people would want to hear.

So I took the plunge and decided to do my own blog! And here I am. I launched it almost two months ago. I am learning by trial-and-error (many, many errors). Slowly I am finding my niche.  And also, slowly people are checking my blog out!

One thing that has been my biggest hurdle is the whole selfie picture situation. Yes, on my social media I have had profile pictures of myself, but not many were actual ‘selfies’. I would often have to crop my face from a group picture. I’ve just never been a ‘selfie’ kind of person.

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Make-up and hair selfie

It’s not that I think I’m ugly…..I’ve just always been self conscious of taking a picture (or multiple) and posting them for the sake of posting them.  I am completely in awe of my friends who can post a beautiful and interesting picture of themselves!

But, with that being said, doing a blog about my family and my life obviously was going to entail taking pictures of myself (or having someone else take pictures of me).  Maybe I am comparing myself to other more established bloggers and don’t feel my pictures and composition are as good as theirs.  It will take time.

So far, I haven’t gotten any horrible feed back (think: wow! You have a huge double chin! Or, hey! Your fly is open)! For some reason I have this nagging thought that people are laughing at me behind my back, but to me this is a slow, self discovery process that has taken me years! When I was little, I was so shy! I seemed to gain a voice during college, but it really didn’t come out until after I had children. If anyone is really laughing at me behind my back……guess what? I don’t care! Laugh away!

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No make-up and hours after I had Henry.  I love this picture taken by my husband.

I am still a total novice at taking pictures of myself, and being in pictures…..but here are a few things I have learned along the way :

  • A little make-up goes a long way.  Under-eye concealer, mascara and blush help me look and feel great.
  • You don’t have to look ‘perfect’ for every picture.  No one is perfect.  Not being perfect can be more interesting.
  • Natural lighting is your best friend.  Using a flash can sometimes wash out your face.
  • Be conscious of your background! No one wants to see a dirty bathroom or a messy pile of mail behind you (unless it is part of your story)!
  • My husband is becoming a great photographer! He has no qualms about taking pictures and doesn’t feel the pressure that I do to take a perfect picture.  Often his casual snap turn out great!
  • Sometimes emotion can outweigh getting the ‘perfect’ shot.  Even if you don’t think you look great, showing real emotion can be very moving.
  • Use filters carefully! They can  be your best friend or worst enemy.  I prefer a little softening, but nothing that makes me look less human.

Do you take selfies? What do you do to make them look the way you want them to?

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8 thoughts on “My Selfie Dilemma: Not Sure of My Face in a Blogger’s Word

  1. I could never really take “selfies” until recently. Just last year I got a phone with front and back cameras. Still not a huge fan… most are with my girls. Can’t wait to follow along!!

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  2. I actually think non-face selfies are some of the most interesting! Tons of people post photos of themselves, their babies, etc. But if you can find an interesting angle that doesn’t include your face, you’re providing something different that may draw a new audience. Take “shoefies,” for example! I love that ground-level perspective in photos.

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  3. I’ve found that I’m not a big selfie person either. Between my hair looking like Lady Liberty’s crown and my acne on display (thanks a lot pregnancy hormones), I’m only taking pictures of my son and those around me. I try to take pictures when I’m dolled up for a date night out with my husband or girl’s night out; but other than that , I shy away from the camera. Great post and good luck with your selfie journey.

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  4. I find it encouraging to hear that there is someone out there in the blogosphere who also isn’t sure about their pictures. I am still learning how to get good shots, mostly my boyfriend is taking pictures of mr though. Most bloggers don’t really do selfies, I am pretty sure about that. Because selfies just look less professional.

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