I like my home to be clean. I shower and put on make-up daily. I like to make home made dinners. I smile and am usually a positive person. Apparently that makes me the most annoying mom on the internet.
No…..I’m not at all (remotely or even kind of close to) perfect. But, it seems lately online, if you are a stay at home mom and like the gig, so many mom blogger wants to make you feel bad for it. I am assuming most of these posts I hear are tongue and cheek. I actually can get a good laugh from some pieces. But I wonder if there is any seriousness to what they are saying. Like everyone else….I have bad days (like yesterday….pregnant, exhausted and a non-napping, teething toddler). But for the most part I love what I do!
I think it just part of how I was raised and my own type A personality, but I hate a mess and want things done ‘just so’. I will be the first person to admit I am a bit of a control freak. And yes, I have been known to complain to my husband after a long day with the kids…..that’s just natural. But I know when I wake up in the morning it is a chance to start fresh and put positive, happy vibes into the world.
I’ve actually gotten the side eye when I showed up to a play date freshly showered and in full make-up. I don’t think any less of moms who don’t do these thing. I think we all need to do what we need to do to get through the day.
Just because my house is (usually) clean does not mean I neglect my children. Freshly vacuumed carpets and gleaming kitchen counters make me feel calm and in control. Again, I’m not saying there is ANYTHING wrong with not doing it…..I just don’t like going to bed with dirty dishes in the sink.
And I LOVE Pintrest. Seriously, I do. I find it inspirational…..it give me great ideas and lets me show off my creativity. I don’t scroll through it and hate all of the pretty pins of cute ideas. I happen to think making a cupcake that looks like a lamb is a wonderful idea for a barnyard first birthday!
Yes, I often coordinate my kids outfits when we go out to dinner.
Yes, I do my best to bake homemade treats for my kid’s classroom parties.
Yes, I iron all of our pillowcases because I like them to look crisp. (Even I will admit this might be going too far).
These things make me happy! And if I am happy, I can enjoy the time (which is most of my time) with my family. In my opinion, being happy just does not come easily for everyone. Sure we all have happy (and sad) moments in life, but to be a genuinely happy person takes a little effort and work.
I want to know that I have given my best to everyday. I look back at old pictures and remember that I really did enjoy that trip to the zoo, or birthday party. Maybe it took me some extra effort, but to me it was worth it.