Last Tuesday I was on my weekly outing at Target. At first glance everything seemed to be normal and in place but after a few moments I was something different in the air. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it at first. It was calm, the moms all had a little twinkle in their eyes.
Then I realized what it was. School was in session and we all had gained our freedom back! After a long hard summer we could (kind of) do what we wanted to! There were NO school aged children in the isles begging their moms for toys or the sugary cotton candy flavored yogurt. All seemed right in the world again.
Moments after I had my epiphany I felt a tap on my shoulder. It was a fellow mom I knew casually from the gym. She asked how I was and exchanged pleasantries and I asked if her kids were in school (she was flying solo).
“Oh yes. I miss them so much. I’m so sad!”
I can see it in your face! You are relaxed. You got showered and dressed without interruptions! You ARE WEARING MAKE-UP. But of course I just smiled and told her that she deserves a few hours to herself and we went on our (very happy) ways.
This year September brought a few big changes to our household. Charlie has started full-time school and Henry is going to tot class two mornings a week. That means I have FIVE glorious hours every week that I just have an (easy) infant to care for. It gives me a moment to breath and remember WHY I love being a mom in the first place.
So far during these few special hours we get together, Whitney and I have gone to Target (duh), taken a long walk and spent an amazing half hour getting a pedicure. What are my plans of how to spend the rest of these great mornings? I might get breakfast with another ‘childless’ mom, hang out at home and cuddle my baby or spend it at the gym. The point is I can do whatever I want! And that really has not happened in a long time. I will enjoy every moment of it without apology.
You see, there is this crazy thing happens to me when my kids are in school. I actually start to miss and appreciate them! The saying that ‘distance makes the heart grow founder’ is so true. They are awesome kids and I realize that SO MUCH MORE when I’m not with them every moment of everyday.
So, mama, when that moment finally happens and you find yourself having a few hours to yourself. Don’t be sad! Enjoy it and embrace it.