Bumpdate: 33 Weeks!

I cannot believe how fast this pregnancy is going! Seven weeks from yesterday I will be having a c-section and get to meet our little girl!

FEELING: Still feeling pretty good for the most part! I have been having hip pain when I stay in the same position for too long.  Sleep is hit or miss.  I wake up several times a night. But, since I have had kids I don’t think I have ever slept ALL night long. I usually am up at least once for either the bathroom or making sure the kiddos are tucked in.

Other then my intense need for a nap almost EVERY day (one perk of staying home), I’m attributing feeling pretty good compared to this time in my last pregnancies to my working out 4-6 days a week.  Now…..this has REALLY slowed down.  I am more like 2-3 times a week.  And, honestly if I can get moving a few times a week I am happy with that. Most importantly I still feel strong and healthy.  Cardio is basically a thing of the past.  My lungs are so crowded by baby girl.  I will be happy when she drops a bit so I can take a deep breath!

WARDROBE: I have my ‘dress’ leggings and my ‘casual’ leggings…..I hope I’m not the only one! I mostly wear leggings, a cami and open cardigan or sweater. It has been super warm (ish) here in Michigan and I have been enjoying not having to squeeze myself into a winter jacket!

CRAVING: Junk food.  Sadly that is all I want.  I still love my smoothies, but I am really trying to reign myself in with everything I want to eat! I also don’t have much room (thanks to her squeezing my insides) so I have to eat small portions or I feel sick.

OVERALL: I am so excited and also a little nervous.  With so many things going on in our household: baby, getting ready to sell our house, and getting ready to move! I don’t have much time to worry. Charlie (4.5) is so excited to meet ‘sissy’.  I hope he still feels the same way if she wakes him up with her crying at night.  Henry (20) months has no idea what is going on.  He will kiss my belly and say baby….but I am not sure it is actually connecting.

Less then two months! Let the countdown begin!!

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I Don’t Ask Permission

I read something that really bothered me the other day.  It was from a blog about motherhood (I don’t remember which one).  That this particular mom said that she has to asks her husband for permission to buy a dress for herself.  Not discusses it with him, or checks in if it is within budget, but actually asks him if it is okay.

He had the power to say yes or no.

She also asks her husband permission if she can go out for a girls night and if it is okay for her to invest in her blog. And she said that he also asks too……but then went on to say that since she is a stay at home mom and doesn’t earn any money that she feels it is respectful to do.

That is where I wanted to punch my computer screen.

Now, I am all for discussions with my husband about expenditures.  I actually think it is an important to have that kind of communication.  Money can create all kinds of problems if not dealt with properly. But we treat each other with respect and consideration. She made it seem as though he has the ultimate power in the relationship and they are not equals. That bothers me.  If she was working outside the home would she have to ask? I’m not sure.

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We are a team!

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My husband and I made the decision together for me to stay at home.  I feel that even though I don’t actually make a paycheck, I am a total equal in every aspect of our relationship. As is he.

We don’t ask each other permission for anything.  I am not a child.  He is not in charge of me.  If I had to ask him for money or if it was okay if I get coffee with my friend I don’t think our marriage would have worked out.

I’m not saying I go around buying diamonds and cars everyday (but that sounds fun)! I am capable of looking at our bank account and knowing if it’s in our budget to buy a pair of jeans or a new dress.

Honestly in life when I hear a mom friend or acquaintance say….’sure, just let me ask my hubby’ it makes me cringe.  Again, I all for discussions and very open communication but asking permission from your equal drives me nuts.

Why do some women do it? Do they really do believe the man is the head of the household and has ultimate control? Do they believe it is not really their money? Or is it the simple fact they lack confidence in their own decision making skills?

I am not making these points to make anyone feel bad or angry.  This is just not my normal and I don’t understand it.

I have been told that it is a sign of respect to their husband.  I don’t buy it.  Respect is a two way street.

Is permission just another word for discussion? Or, is it actually giving all of the decision making about your life to another person?

What do you think? Do you ask permission from your husband?

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Here’s Our Home!! So Far…..

Back when I started this blog, I mentioned we are finally building our dream house!!! Yes….it started in September and we have been waiting….waiting…..waiting for construction to start.  I am not a very patient person.  And let me tell you this has been a lesson in patience! I have only so much control over the situation (bad weather and building a house in January in Michigan don’t exactly go hand-in-hand).

Slowly but surely we are making progress.  I thought I would share a little bit of our progress and excitement!

I have been casually looking at houses for probably about a year.  I LOVE our current house, but we were quickly growing out of it. And at that point I didn’t even know I was pregnant.

Matt and I looked at this model home in Royal Oak and fell in love.  We signed the papers and within 24 hours of doing that we  found out we were expecting! Talk about a world wind of events.

As of now our home is expected to be ready near the end of June.  But, of course that is subject to change.

My mantra right now is: Patience is a virtue. Wish me luck!

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The first sign of construction!
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Foundation.  Slowly coming along.
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The start of framing our home.
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Starting to look like a house.
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This is what our house is supposed to look like……one day.

I can’t wait to make this house our home. This is where we will plant our roots and grow together .  Just in the meantime I need to: have a baby, sell a house, pack up a house and move.  Simple, right?

Being Positive in a Negative (Online) World

Once upon a time Facebook was filled with images of weddings, babies and drunk people. It was fun and silly.  Now it is filled with angry rants and negative energy.  Name calling, and worst of all friends degrading friends. I’ve seen it, I have been the victim of it and honestly, I’ve probably been sucked into a Facebook fight or two.  It is horrible, no one EVER wins these ‘fights’ and friends are lost, egos are bruised and feelings are hurt.

It doesn’t  matter if it’s mommy wars, political rants or even the best way to raise your puppy! The second it becomes negative and condescending people are bound to get fired up.

And, I get it! I am passionate about my beliefs (anyone who knows me well can vouch for this).  I want to disagree and agree with people too! I get angry when I see something that I don’t think is right or fair and want to enter into a Facebook exchange with them to ‘right their wrongs’.  But lately something has stopped me……I finally took a step back and thought: has telling them how wrong they are EVER changed their minds and made them see the ‘light’?

THAT WOULD BE A BIG FAT NO.

Most of the time it becomes a heated exchange where both parties and sometimes even third parties go at it.  No one wins.  And, I don’t know about you, but I often feel agitated and annoyed. Sometimes it can even ruin my day!! And for what? Nothing has changed at all.

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Don’t get me wrong. I fully support that people have the right to express whatever they want…we do live in America. But behind the veil of Facebook we seem to have lost any sense of humility.  Being kind has been thrown out the window. Just because you might see someone else being a jerk online, does that mean we all have to be?

I have discovered a few wonderful ways that has changed the way I peruse Facebook.  This is not to say that I am not open to reading about other peoples thoughtful opinions that I don’t agree with….just the opposite.  I like leaning about other viewpoints, but when it gets to negative, angry and personal I am OVER it.

Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative!

I am choosing to only see the positive online and here is how I do it:

  • Follow only those feeds who make you happy and add something to your life.  If you are constantly annoyed or disagreeing with someone, maybe it is time to move on.
  • Re-evaluate your ‘friends’ list.  I have noticed that people I have not seen in over a decade keep popping up in my feed! Why do I even care what they think!! Sometimes saying ‘goodbye’ is the easiest thing to do!
  • If there is a certain post that is bothering you click on the top right corner of the post where the arrow is and ‘hide’ the post! It really is as easy as that! You won’t see it popping back up time after time.
  • If you really feel the need to engage….give yourself a five minute ‘timeout’ before posting.  Keep your comments positive and DO NOT under any circumstance personally insult your ‘friend’.
  • TAKE A BREAK FROM FACEBOOK.  Just stop looking at it for a while.  Remove the app from your phone.  If someone really needs to get a hold of you, they can call you!

Having an opinion and passion in our world is so important….and my guess is that we all have the best intentions too. Sometimes it’s not what we say but how we say it.

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I Hate Breast is Best

** I am not giving medical advice! I am just a mom and sharing my experience!**

I hate breast is best.  I hate nursing. There. I said it.  Those words have been simmering in my mind and soul for months, maybe years.  I have two boys (4.5 & 19 months).  And both of them are formula fed.  They are healthy, active, smart and sweet…….and might have had about ten ounces of breast milk in their whole life. I am passionate in my belief that Fed is Best, but still….as I am pregnant with my third child, I still feel that pressure from society, mom blogs and social media that if I don’t do it, I am a bad, lazy mom.

And let me tell you…..it really pisses me off.

I am not a medical professional.  I’m just a mom.  But, I can talk about my experiences and experiences that I have heard from other moms.  Yes, there are studies that show (or in their words, prove….) that breastfed babies are smarter and healthier then formula fed babies.

I say they are full of S***.

I have been told that I can outspoken and sometimes come across as brash when it comes to this subject.  And, I’m okay with that.  So many moms feel so much guilt about this, but don’t feel they have a voice to speak out.  I will be their voice. I have yet to hear an explanation to why it is better for me to keep trying to breastfeed my newborn that is continually losing weight and screaming because he is HUNGRY.  I want my child and the rest of my family to be happy and HEALTHY.

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Tummy full and sleeping.

I refuse to live in a state of fear that other moms will judge me anymore.

Picture this……me, a new mom leaving the hospital with a big, chubby, sweet baby boy. My husband and I had NO IDEA of what we were doing or getting ourselves into, other then the baby 101 class we had taken and the mom blogs that I had religiously read throughout my pregnancy.  We were winging it.

  • Breast is best!
  • Don’t give up!
  • Use this mysterious recipe for cookies that will for sure increase your supply.
  •  Here is the number to the BEST lactation consultant….she is amazing.  Only $100 per consultation.
  • Formula is disgusting! Do you know what is in it? Even if your newborn is screaming…..don’t you dare give him that poison!! He will be fat and dumb when he grows up.

I’m not kidding.  I heard it all.  And, the crazy thing is NONE of this advice came from my pediatrician!

About a week after being home in the middle of the night, I was doing my best to nurse a screaming baby for an hour and my husband came in the nursery.  The baby and I were both in tears. He gingerly took the baby and mentioned that we had some formula samples in the pantry.  Let’s just try it.  How can it get any worse then this? I agreed.  I was exhausted. He made the bottle and the baby sucked down the whole bottle and promptly fell asleep. We all did.  It was glorious.

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These two are formula fed and so happy!

The next morning the sun seemed to shine a little brighter, the baby smiled a little more and I was finally able to appreciate and embrace the moments of having a newborn instead of feeling the pressure and helplessness of not being able to nourish and sooth my baby.

And, I never looked back.

We love formula for my family.  And it has been wonderful that my husband is able to take part of the newborn bonding (and midnight feedings).  But, I will say this is just the experience for my family.  I truly believe that every family is different and they should do exactly what they feel is right for their own.  Is that breastfeeding until two years old? Yes? Then go for it! Is it formula feeding from the moment the baby is born? Then do it!

We all need to join together and stop the madness.  Let’s change the narrative that breast is best to fed is best.  Education and options give moms the ability to make decisions for what is best for their family.

So, instead of rolling your eyes at the mom with a bottle feeding her tiny baby, or the mom who is nursing without a cover….give them a smile…..that can go a LONG way.

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Easter Outfits Made Easy: My Picks!

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Growing up I always loved reading Peter Rabbit with my mom! And, now Gymboree is releasing their cutest (in my option) Easter collection I have seen.

These pieces have been specially designed for the littlest ones in your life. This collection is the perfect way to celebrate baby’s first Easter with bunny-soft styles, sweet ruffles, and exquisite embroidery fit for a prince or princess.

Displaying I am loving the vintage feel and inspiration of this line.  It reminds me of how my mom dressed me as a baby. So sweet and nostalgic!

I am so excited to have been able to partner with Gymboree for their sweet Easter collection.  And with that being said, I am attaching a 20% off coupon for your WHOLE order! Not just their Peter Rabbit collection…..EVERYTHING! Just click through the link below and voila!

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Some of my favorite things about Gymboree is the quality, colors and easy ability to mix and match all of their collections.  Also, I LOVE planning and matching my boys.They are three years apart and sometimes it is hard to find baby and toddler clothes that match….but at Gymboree? No problem!

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I hope you love this collection as much as I do.  I can’t wait to get my boys dressed to impress….and of course match!

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The Longest Moments

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The kitchen is a mess.  We’ve just finished dinner and Charlie, my four-year-old, is upstairs having a screaming match against himself.  I sent him to his room for standing on the table and not getting down after I asked him five times.  Henry, my 19-month-old, is screaming just because he has just finished all of his milk and well…..it’s just all gone.  My dear husband is on his hands and knees trying to clean up all of the corn the baby flicked on the floor….well because it was not covered in ketchup…his new favorite must have food.

The reason we could not use any ketchup is because Charlie also loves it….so much that he licked the lid of the bottle because it is ‘so delicious’ and I had yet to clean it off.

I looked at the clock again and it was only 6:28…..seriously??? That must have been the slowest four minutes EVER.  How was I going to get to 7:00? Yes, my kids go to bed early….but thirty two minutes away seemed like an eternity!

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These boys are sweet and sneaky.  A unstoppable combination.

After a few minutes I go upstairs to see a puffy faced,  sad looking boy.  He was so upset he could hardly talk. “Mommy….you….. you….. you made me sad.” Oh jeez.  The guilt.  I was totally in the right to send him to his room.  He chose not to listen to me and had several warnings.  But in that moment my heart was breaking for my little con-artist. He can put a steak through my heart then kiss it better in about three seconds. He says sorry and we hug.

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Back downstairs the baby has calmed down and I changed him into his pajamas. Then the three of us go back upstairs and snuggled onto the rocking chair in the baby’s room to read books before bed.  If you were a fly on the wall in that moment, you would see a mother and her two adorable children who were giggling and hugging and kissing each other as we read an Elmo nighttime book.  It was like the last twenty minutes didn’t even happen.  Like the blink of an eye that horrible, crazy part of the night was gone.

Why do they do this to my heart and my soul?

At moments like this, I cherish being their mom.  It is the best thing in the world. But, I, like most moms also get so caught up in the moments of pure exhaustion and frustration. Right now, though,  I will just rock them and soak it in…..

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Trying to choose to remember all the good moments!

7:22

Both kids are in bed.  I can take a deep breath and realize that we made it through another night.

This night was not our normal, but by no doubt it happens…..sometimes several nights in a row.  I complain. I get angry. Sometimes I  yell……but I also love, hug and kiss. All of this often happens the span of a few minutes!

Those sweet faces constantly keep me on the edge.  The edge of sanity, of breakdowns, of laughing fits and crying fits….you name it and I have felt it.  They keeps our hearts raw and wide open. These days with small children are full of extremes.  Extremely hard and extremely fulfilling.  Not much in between.

I’ve heard many times before that I should cherish these days.  One day they will just be a faint memory…..and as much as I hate to admit it….they are right.  Looking back at chaotic vacations or school recitals…..I mostly remember the smiles and adorable performances….not the whining and  the exasperation I feel getting out the door.

So, for right now, I will enjoy the next two hours in peace and quiet knowing my little love muffins are happily sleeping, resting up to wreak havoc tomorrow.

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Baby Shower Diaper Wreath

This past weekend I went to a sprinkle for a friend who is about to have her third boy!  We wanted to celebrate and make her feel special……and although I wanted to get her something practical (what mom does not need diapers)? I also wanted it be be a little more special then just a boring box of diapers.  In the past I’ve played around with making a diaper ‘masterpiece’ and often my well intentioned diaper elephant creation ended up looking like a lopsided cow.  So…..I decided to keep it simple and focus on the details to make is cute!

This diaper wreath was pretty simple, but has the wow factor too! I was able to create it the night before her sprinkle while watching TV in about an hour.  It is easy to customize for girls, boys or neutral theme.

Here is what you will need:

  • Package of diapers (I bought the smallest package….37 diapers and still had several leftover).
  • Floral foam wreath.  I got mine at Micheal’s.
  • Curling ribbon.  In whatever colors you want. I picked white and light blue.
  • Small baby items (pacifiers, travel size shampoo, lotion, rattles……you pick)!

 

First make sure you use the side of the diaper facing up that is mostly white.  For mine (Target brand) it is the backside, so I flipped them over. Cut a long piece of ribbon- at least two feet. You want enough to curl it. Tie the ribbon around the diaper and wreath as shown below. I am alternating white and blue.

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As your wreath gets more full, push the diapers closer together so it will be full when finished.

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Once all of the diapers are on, start adding your fun baby items you picked out! Just use another piece of curling ribbon and tie around the desired diaper.

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Once this is done I pushed the white ribbon diapers to the back and brought up the blue ribbon diapers to the front and  fluffed them out to make it full-looking. Now you can curl all of the ribbon!

And you are done! Everyone will love this adorable and practical gift!

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Bumpdate 27 Weeks!

FEELING: Excellent! Wow! This pregnancy is flying by! Maybe because with my first pregnancy I had a lot of time to think about EVERY MOMENT……but now I hardly have a second to myself! She sure it growing quickly though.  I feel her kicks and am love it. No, I am not one of those people who loves being pregnant, but am trying to take in that this will be my last baby and trying to enjoy the moment.

WARDROBE: Leggings. Lots of leggings. I feel like I am getting ‘dressed up’ when I put on jeans.  Leggings are just so comfortable! Paired with a long sleeve shirt or cami and open sweater I’m usually dressed for the day.  Since I don’t have a huge need for dressier clothes, I have gotten by with two dresses I wore over the holidays.  I just change up the accessories and call it a day. And, lets not forget the power of a good pair of shoes.

CRAVING: Smoothies! Yum! I am starting to feel really full, really quick (as she is growing,  I am losing space in there)….so they are filling me up and giving me a boost of vitamins and protein. Usually I include: Frozen Strawberries, banana, ice, baby spinach, avocado, Greek yogurt, a little bit of OJ. Delicious!

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OVERALL THOUGHTS: This is getting real! I am a little bummed out that I wont have her nursery ready when she is born….we will be moving a month or two after her arrival….so there is no point in setting it up. But, I am getting my ideas together and will have all the pieces ready to set up.

I am also starting to freak out a bit (or a lot) about how I’m going to handle three kids! Charlie will be in full-time school this fall, but I am worried about getting through the summer.  Luckily my mom and dad are around often and I have wonderful friends to help me though with moral support (and hopefully wine).

NAME UPDATE: Nothing set in stone.  We are still negotiating and deliberating.  But, don’t worry! We will know soon. I need time to order some monogrammed clothes for her big arrival!

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I Might Be the Mom the Internet Hates.

I like my home to be clean. I shower and put on make-up daily. I like to make home made dinners. I smile and am usually a positive person. Apparently that makes me the most annoying mom on the internet.

No…..I’m not at all (remotely or even kind of close to) perfect. But, it seems lately online, if you are a stay at home mom and like the gig, so many mom blogger wants to make you feel bad for it. I am assuming most of these posts I hear are tongue and cheek.  I actually can get a good laugh from some pieces.  But I wonder if there is any seriousness to what they are saying.  Like everyone else….I have bad days (like yesterday….pregnant, exhausted and a non-napping, teething toddler).  But for the most part I love what I do!

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I love to dress my kiddos in matching outfits.

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I think it just part of how I was raised and my own type A personality, but I hate a mess and want things done ‘just so’. I will be the first person to admit I am a bit of a control freak.  And yes, I have been known to complain to my husband after a long day with the kids…..that’s just natural.  But I know when I wake up in the morning it is a chance to start fresh and put positive, happy vibes into the world.

I’ve actually gotten the side eye when I showed up to a play date freshly showered and in full make-up.  I don’t think any less of moms who don’t do these thing. I think we all need to do what we need to do to get through the day.

Just because my house is (usually) clean does not mean I neglect my children. Freshly vacuumed carpets and gleaming kitchen counters make me feel calm and in control. Again, I’m not saying there is ANYTHING wrong with not doing it…..I just don’t like going to bed with dirty dishes in the sink.

And I LOVE Pintrest.  Seriously, I do.  I find it inspirational…..it give me great ideas and lets me show off my creativity.  I don’t scroll through it and hate all of the pretty pins of cute ideas.  I happen to think making a cupcake that looks like a lamb is a wonderful idea for a barnyard first birthday!

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Pintrest birthday party for the win!!

Yes, I often coordinate my kids outfits when we go out to dinner.

Yes, I do my best to bake homemade treats for my kid’s classroom parties.

Yes, I iron all of our pillowcases because I like them to look crisp. (Even I will admit this might be going too far).

These things make me happy! And if I am happy, I can enjoy the time (which is most of my time) with my family.  In my opinion, being happy just does not come easily for everyone. Sure we all have happy (and sad) moments in life, but to be a genuinely happy person takes a little effort and work.

I want to know that I have given my best to everyday.  I look back at old pictures and remember that I really did enjoy that trip to the zoo, or birthday party.  Maybe it took me some extra effort, but to me it was worth it.

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