She’s Here! Whitney’s Birth Story

We did it! We are so happy to announce the birth our our daughter, Whitney Catherine. She was born early morning on Thursday April 20.

We thought we were going in for a scheduled c-section but she had other plans for us. My husband and I arrived at the hospital at 5:30 in the two hours before our scheduled surgery. I was getting prepped and all of a sudden her heart rate dropped dramatically. In the 80’s (normal heart rate is anywhere between 110-160).

At first the nurse thought it was just a dip and would come back up, which is normal. But her heart rate didn’t want to budge. Within a minute there were about ten nurses, doctors in the little triage room and everyone was looking at the monitors.  They were trying to move and adjust me to see if they could move me to get a better heart rate. It was all happening so fast and seemed so chaotic to me.

My doctor wasn’t there yet, but I heard a doctor tell me that they couldn’t wait. They were going to perform my c-section right away.

That was when I started crying as they wheeled me out. I was able to get the words out if my husband could come and they said no, because I was going to be put under.

Que the uncontrollable sobbing.

And that was the last thing I remembered. The next thing I knew, I was in recovery wondering what exactly happened. I looked over and my husband was holding our perfect little girl.

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She was healthy, happy and here.

We still are not sure what exactly caused the slow heart rate , but I really feel like it was God stepping in and making us be in the right place at the right time.

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And, so far so good! Whitney is fitting in with her brothers very easily. They love her so much and it is adorable to see my husband with his little girl.

In the past couple of days when moments have gotten chaotic and I have to remember how lucky we are that we have three healthy happy little kids.

 

 

38 Week Bumpdate!!

Wow! I am 38 weeks. I know it sounds trite, but I really feel like this pregnancy has flown by and am so excited and READY to meet this little girl.  Not to say I haven’t had my challenges with this pregnancy.  I know all pregnancies are different, but holy hip pain! I don’t remember it being half as bad with my boys.  Maybe it was, though, and I just blocked it out.

FEELING: I am officially OVER IT.  I am not going to say I even feel great anymore.  I am exhausted, in pain (did I mention hip, back and pelvis pain)? And getting off the couch or turning over in bed is excruciating! I have stopped working out in the past two weeks. That alone is making me feel like a sloth.

I realized that I was getting over exerted and my heart rate was getting too high even with just walking at a excelled pace.  So, I am listening to my body and slowing WAY down.

While I still have to keep up with two active kiddos, I am relying on the TV more then I would like to admit.  And, as the weather has (finally) turned, they are able to blow some steam off in the backyard.

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Wardrobe: I hate to admit it…..but you can usually find me in leggings and a  stretchy top.  Jeans are for getting dressed up these days.  I actually wore a cute maternity dress on Sunday for a brunch with my girlfriends.  It felt great to feel pretty again! I cannot wait to bet back to my normal clothes.

CRAVINGS: Junk food.  Oops.  My healthy eating kick is out the window at this point.  I am really trying to get my proper nutrition in. But, that does not mean I’m not going to have a bowl of ice cream or a cupcake after dinner.

OVERALL: I am trying my very best to embrace the moment.  This is going to be my last pregnancy but it is really hard with two other little kids to take care of too.

We have finally picked a name!! We have told a few friends, but are waiting until she gets here to tell everyone.  Stay tuned!!

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My Make-Up Bag Essentials

I have mentioned that I love make-up before.  I think I started wearing it when I was 12…..but really remember at about five-years-old sneaking into my moms make-up bag and making myself ‘pretty’ with blue eye shadow (thank you 1980’s)! My look had refined a little since then…..and after wearing it for more then 20 years, I have figured out a few products that are truly timeless and I will probably wear for the next 20 years.

Some of my favorite products are high end, but some of my all-time favorites are from the drug store and under $10! Some might be under $5! It is all about figuring out what works best for you and your lifestyle.

Most days my make-up routine can be done in about four minutes and does not include lipstick. I try to keep it simple. Here is what you can usually find in my make-up bag!

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L'Oreal Paris Voluminous Original Mascara, Carbon Black, 0.26 Fluid Ounce

L’Oreal Voluminous Mascara

Elf Baked Eye shadow Trio

Cover Girl Perfect Point PLUS Eyeliner

Bobbi Brown Long Wear Wear Even Finish Foundation

 

Mac Studio Finish Concealer

Mac Powder Blush

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Bumpdate: 33 Weeks!

I cannot believe how fast this pregnancy is going! Seven weeks from yesterday I will be having a c-section and get to meet our little girl!

FEELING: Still feeling pretty good for the most part! I have been having hip pain when I stay in the same position for too long.  Sleep is hit or miss.  I wake up several times a night. But, since I have had kids I don’t think I have ever slept ALL night long. I usually am up at least once for either the bathroom or making sure the kiddos are tucked in.

Other then my intense need for a nap almost EVERY day (one perk of staying home), I’m attributing feeling pretty good compared to this time in my last pregnancies to my working out 4-6 days a week.  Now…..this has REALLY slowed down.  I am more like 2-3 times a week.  And, honestly if I can get moving a few times a week I am happy with that. Most importantly I still feel strong and healthy.  Cardio is basically a thing of the past.  My lungs are so crowded by baby girl.  I will be happy when she drops a bit so I can take a deep breath!

WARDROBE: I have my ‘dress’ leggings and my ‘casual’ leggings…..I hope I’m not the only one! I mostly wear leggings, a cami and open cardigan or sweater. It has been super warm (ish) here in Michigan and I have been enjoying not having to squeeze myself into a winter jacket!

CRAVING: Junk food.  Sadly that is all I want.  I still love my smoothies, but I am really trying to reign myself in with everything I want to eat! I also don’t have much room (thanks to her squeezing my insides) so I have to eat small portions or I feel sick.

OVERALL: I am so excited and also a little nervous.  With so many things going on in our household: baby, getting ready to sell our house, and getting ready to move! I don’t have much time to worry. Charlie (4.5) is so excited to meet ‘sissy’.  I hope he still feels the same way if she wakes him up with her crying at night.  Henry (20) months has no idea what is going on.  He will kiss my belly and say baby….but I am not sure it is actually connecting.

Less then two months! Let the countdown begin!!

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I Don’t Ask Permission

I read something that really bothered me the other day.  It was from a blog about motherhood (I don’t remember which one).  That this particular mom said that she has to asks her husband for permission to buy a dress for herself.  Not discusses it with him, or checks in if it is within budget, but actually asks him if it is okay.

He had the power to say yes or no.

She also asks her husband permission if she can go out for a girls night and if it is okay for her to invest in her blog. And she said that he also asks too……but then went on to say that since she is a stay at home mom and doesn’t earn any money that she feels it is respectful to do.

That is where I wanted to punch my computer screen.

Now, I am all for discussions with my husband about expenditures.  I actually think it is an important to have that kind of communication.  Money can create all kinds of problems if not dealt with properly. But we treat each other with respect and consideration. She made it seem as though he has the ultimate power in the relationship and they are not equals. That bothers me.  If she was working outside the home would she have to ask? I’m not sure.

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We are a team!

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My husband and I made the decision together for me to stay at home.  I feel that even though I don’t actually make a paycheck, I am a total equal in every aspect of our relationship. As is he.

We don’t ask each other permission for anything.  I am not a child.  He is not in charge of me.  If I had to ask him for money or if it was okay if I get coffee with my friend I don’t think our marriage would have worked out.

I’m not saying I go around buying diamonds and cars everyday (but that sounds fun)! I am capable of looking at our bank account and knowing if it’s in our budget to buy a pair of jeans or a new dress.

Honestly in life when I hear a mom friend or acquaintance say….’sure, just let me ask my hubby’ it makes me cringe.  Again, I all for discussions and very open communication but asking permission from your equal drives me nuts.

Why do some women do it? Do they really do believe the man is the head of the household and has ultimate control? Do they believe it is not really their money? Or is it the simple fact they lack confidence in their own decision making skills?

I am not making these points to make anyone feel bad or angry.  This is just not my normal and I don’t understand it.

I have been told that it is a sign of respect to their husband.  I don’t buy it.  Respect is a two way street.

Is permission just another word for discussion? Or, is it actually giving all of the decision making about your life to another person?

What do you think? Do you ask permission from your husband?

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Here’s Our Home!! So Far…..

Back when I started this blog, I mentioned we are finally building our dream house!!! Yes….it started in September and we have been waiting….waiting…..waiting for construction to start.  I am not a very patient person.  And let me tell you this has been a lesson in patience! I have only so much control over the situation (bad weather and building a house in January in Michigan don’t exactly go hand-in-hand).

Slowly but surely we are making progress.  I thought I would share a little bit of our progress and excitement!

I have been casually looking at houses for probably about a year.  I LOVE our current house, but we were quickly growing out of it. And at that point I didn’t even know I was pregnant.

Matt and I looked at this model home in Royal Oak and fell in love.  We signed the papers and within 24 hours of doing that we  found out we were expecting! Talk about a world wind of events.

As of now our home is expected to be ready near the end of June.  But, of course that is subject to change.

My mantra right now is: Patience is a virtue. Wish me luck!

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The first sign of construction!
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Foundation.  Slowly coming along.
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The start of framing our home.
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Starting to look like a house.
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This is what our house is supposed to look like……one day.

I can’t wait to make this house our home. This is where we will plant our roots and grow together .  Just in the meantime I need to: have a baby, sell a house, pack up a house and move.  Simple, right?

Finding Your Confidence at the Gym

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I have been every basically every size you can buy since college.  I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with health, fitness and working out.

Finally at 35 years old I  cannot believe I am saying this, but I love to work out!!! I feel physically my best I have in years. Although I still have a ways to go, I love to see the progress I’ve made.  I feel amazing after a good sweat fest.   I love pushing myself when I don’t think I can, but then realizing that I can do it! And, major bonus points if I have soar muscles the next day! I have finally learned what it means to make good use of time in the gym.  And it’s not how fast and far you can run on the treadmill. I’ve talked in the past of why I work out (see that post here), and now here I am talking about how I do it with confidence.

In the past I was so self-conscious of trying out the weight machines, or asking a trainer for help on how to use something properly.  I thought that people were staring at me…..like:  who’s that girl who that girl? She better work a lot harder if she wants to see any results! Or: She looks ridiculous! She doesn’t even know how to use the TRX properly (more on that in another post).

I have realized something…..no one cares what you look like at the gym.

Everyone is so into what they are doing there is no time to look and judge others.  That, of course, is a general statement….there is always going to be a jerk or two.  But I chalk it up to them just having a bad day.

While I adore the cute, backless Lululemon tops that I see some women wear at the gym….that is just not me.  I think I would worry that everything was flopping out of place, rather then worrying about how fast I’m running.

The key to having confidence at the gym is feeling good about yourself.  Good or bad, that has a lot to do with what I am wearing.  If it fits well I’m not going to be constantly worried if my muffing top is showing.Support and proper coverage is what it’s all about.  Here are a few of my favorite pieces that me feel cute and comfortable.

ASICS GEL-CUMULUS 17 RUNNING SHOE

I wear this brand of running shoes all the time. They are light, flexible and give me great support.  I cannot get my head wrapped around spending $200 on a pair….especially when I get a new pair every 8 months or so….(see the picture at the top ….I literally ran a hole in these).  And, score! They are on sale right now.  I’ll be ordering them this afternoon.

ATHLETA FREEDOM SUPERCHARGED TANK

Athleta is one of my favorite brands.  It is super soft, there are a huge variety of sizes and washes really well.  I like this tank, because it has a built in bra. It is super supportive and really cute!

 OLD NAVY GO-DRY MID-RISE COMPRESSION LEGGING FOR WOMEN

I can live in these leggings. And sometimes I think I do! I have several pairs and styles.  They don’t fade in the dryer and keep everything ‘tucked’ in.

ATHLETA POSE LAYERED TOP

I wear this top with leggings, jeans, when pregnant and not pregnant! It is my go-to for wearing after the gym and looking cute.  And, at 31 weeks pregant I can still wear it and rock my bump!

So, this seems to be my unofficial uniform for the gym (and life in general).  What are you’re favorite pics?

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Being Positive in a Negative (Online) World

Once upon a time Facebook was filled with images of weddings, babies and drunk people. It was fun and silly.  Now it is filled with angry rants and negative energy.  Name calling, and worst of all friends degrading friends. I’ve seen it, I have been the victim of it and honestly, I’ve probably been sucked into a Facebook fight or two.  It is horrible, no one EVER wins these ‘fights’ and friends are lost, egos are bruised and feelings are hurt.

It doesn’t  matter if it’s mommy wars, political rants or even the best way to raise your puppy! The second it becomes negative and condescending people are bound to get fired up.

And, I get it! I am passionate about my beliefs (anyone who knows me well can vouch for this).  I want to disagree and agree with people too! I get angry when I see something that I don’t think is right or fair and want to enter into a Facebook exchange with them to ‘right their wrongs’.  But lately something has stopped me……I finally took a step back and thought: has telling them how wrong they are EVER changed their minds and made them see the ‘light’?

THAT WOULD BE A BIG FAT NO.

Most of the time it becomes a heated exchange where both parties and sometimes even third parties go at it.  No one wins.  And, I don’t know about you, but I often feel agitated and annoyed. Sometimes it can even ruin my day!! And for what? Nothing has changed at all.

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Don’t get me wrong. I fully support that people have the right to express whatever they want…we do live in America. But behind the veil of Facebook we seem to have lost any sense of humility.  Being kind has been thrown out the window. Just because you might see someone else being a jerk online, does that mean we all have to be?

I have discovered a few wonderful ways that has changed the way I peruse Facebook.  This is not to say that I am not open to reading about other peoples thoughtful opinions that I don’t agree with….just the opposite.  I like leaning about other viewpoints, but when it gets to negative, angry and personal I am OVER it.

Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative!

I am choosing to only see the positive online and here is how I do it:

  • Follow only those feeds who make you happy and add something to your life.  If you are constantly annoyed or disagreeing with someone, maybe it is time to move on.
  • Re-evaluate your ‘friends’ list.  I have noticed that people I have not seen in over a decade keep popping up in my feed! Why do I even care what they think!! Sometimes saying ‘goodbye’ is the easiest thing to do!
  • If there is a certain post that is bothering you click on the top right corner of the post where the arrow is and ‘hide’ the post! It really is as easy as that! You won’t see it popping back up time after time.
  • If you really feel the need to engage….give yourself a five minute ‘timeout’ before posting.  Keep your comments positive and DO NOT under any circumstance personally insult your ‘friend’.
  • TAKE A BREAK FROM FACEBOOK.  Just stop looking at it for a while.  Remove the app from your phone.  If someone really needs to get a hold of you, they can call you!

Having an opinion and passion in our world is so important….and my guess is that we all have the best intentions too. Sometimes it’s not what we say but how we say it.

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The Longest Moments

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The kitchen is a mess.  We’ve just finished dinner and Charlie, my four-year-old, is upstairs having a screaming match against himself.  I sent him to his room for standing on the table and not getting down after I asked him five times.  Henry, my 19-month-old, is screaming just because he has just finished all of his milk and well…..it’s just all gone.  My dear husband is on his hands and knees trying to clean up all of the corn the baby flicked on the floor….well because it was not covered in ketchup…his new favorite must have food.

The reason we could not use any ketchup is because Charlie also loves it….so much that he licked the lid of the bottle because it is ‘so delicious’ and I had yet to clean it off.

I looked at the clock again and it was only 6:28…..seriously??? That must have been the slowest four minutes EVER.  How was I going to get to 7:00? Yes, my kids go to bed early….but thirty two minutes away seemed like an eternity!

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These boys are sweet and sneaky.  A unstoppable combination.

After a few minutes I go upstairs to see a puffy faced,  sad looking boy.  He was so upset he could hardly talk. “Mommy….you….. you….. you made me sad.” Oh jeez.  The guilt.  I was totally in the right to send him to his room.  He chose not to listen to me and had several warnings.  But in that moment my heart was breaking for my little con-artist. He can put a steak through my heart then kiss it better in about three seconds. He says sorry and we hug.

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Back downstairs the baby has calmed down and I changed him into his pajamas. Then the three of us go back upstairs and snuggled onto the rocking chair in the baby’s room to read books before bed.  If you were a fly on the wall in that moment, you would see a mother and her two adorable children who were giggling and hugging and kissing each other as we read an Elmo nighttime book.  It was like the last twenty minutes didn’t even happen.  Like the blink of an eye that horrible, crazy part of the night was gone.

Why do they do this to my heart and my soul?

At moments like this, I cherish being their mom.  It is the best thing in the world. But, I, like most moms also get so caught up in the moments of pure exhaustion and frustration. Right now, though,  I will just rock them and soak it in…..

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Trying to choose to remember all the good moments!

7:22

Both kids are in bed.  I can take a deep breath and realize that we made it through another night.

This night was not our normal, but by no doubt it happens…..sometimes several nights in a row.  I complain. I get angry. Sometimes I  yell……but I also love, hug and kiss. All of this often happens the span of a few minutes!

Those sweet faces constantly keep me on the edge.  The edge of sanity, of breakdowns, of laughing fits and crying fits….you name it and I have felt it.  They keeps our hearts raw and wide open. These days with small children are full of extremes.  Extremely hard and extremely fulfilling.  Not much in between.

I’ve heard many times before that I should cherish these days.  One day they will just be a faint memory…..and as much as I hate to admit it….they are right.  Looking back at chaotic vacations or school recitals…..I mostly remember the smiles and adorable performances….not the whining and  the exasperation I feel getting out the door.

So, for right now, I will enjoy the next two hours in peace and quiet knowing my little love muffins are happily sleeping, resting up to wreak havoc tomorrow.

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Bumpdate 27 Weeks!

FEELING: Excellent! Wow! This pregnancy is flying by! Maybe because with my first pregnancy I had a lot of time to think about EVERY MOMENT……but now I hardly have a second to myself! She sure it growing quickly though.  I feel her kicks and am love it. No, I am not one of those people who loves being pregnant, but am trying to take in that this will be my last baby and trying to enjoy the moment.

WARDROBE: Leggings. Lots of leggings. I feel like I am getting ‘dressed up’ when I put on jeans.  Leggings are just so comfortable! Paired with a long sleeve shirt or cami and open sweater I’m usually dressed for the day.  Since I don’t have a huge need for dressier clothes, I have gotten by with two dresses I wore over the holidays.  I just change up the accessories and call it a day. And, lets not forget the power of a good pair of shoes.

CRAVING: Smoothies! Yum! I am starting to feel really full, really quick (as she is growing,  I am losing space in there)….so they are filling me up and giving me a boost of vitamins and protein. Usually I include: Frozen Strawberries, banana, ice, baby spinach, avocado, Greek yogurt, a little bit of OJ. Delicious!

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OVERALL THOUGHTS: This is getting real! I am a little bummed out that I wont have her nursery ready when she is born….we will be moving a month or two after her arrival….so there is no point in setting it up. But, I am getting my ideas together and will have all the pieces ready to set up.

I am also starting to freak out a bit (or a lot) about how I’m going to handle three kids! Charlie will be in full-time school this fall, but I am worried about getting through the summer.  Luckily my mom and dad are around often and I have wonderful friends to help me though with moral support (and hopefully wine).

NAME UPDATE: Nothing set in stone.  We are still negotiating and deliberating.  But, don’t worry! We will know soon. I need time to order some monogrammed clothes for her big arrival!

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