I’m Back!

It feels so good to be back writing! I have missed connecting with all of you amazing women! I have missed the friendship, support and honestly even the debates!

The past several months have been a world-wind! In April I had a beautiful baby girl (Whitney Catherine). Read about her birth story here! She’s Here! Whitney’s Birth Story We were also in the middle of selling our home and moving across town to what I can only describe as my dream home.

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I’m not going to lie.  It has not been easy, but I am so in love with life right now.  We are so lucky to have three healthy and happy children and a roof over our head. With all of the horrible and scary things going on in the world I’ve been thanking God everyday that we have these simple things that mean so much to us.

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So now that the school year is imminent (sniff, sniff, my oldest is starting junior kindergarten) I will be back on schedule.  And for those who know me, know I love a schedule!

I will be sharing my trials and tribulations on decorating my home (mostly by myself), parenting, having a life outside of ‘mommyhood’ and my attempt at balancing all of that withing losing it!

Thank you again for reading along and I can’t wait to hear from you!!

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Being Positive in a Negative (Online) World

Once upon a time Facebook was filled with images of weddings, babies and drunk people. It was fun and silly.  Now it is filled with angry rants and negative energy.  Name calling, and worst of all friends degrading friends. I’ve seen it, I have been the victim of it and honestly, I’ve probably been sucked into a Facebook fight or two.  It is horrible, no one EVER wins these ‘fights’ and friends are lost, egos are bruised and feelings are hurt.

It doesn’t  matter if it’s mommy wars, political rants or even the best way to raise your puppy! The second it becomes negative and condescending people are bound to get fired up.

And, I get it! I am passionate about my beliefs (anyone who knows me well can vouch for this).  I want to disagree and agree with people too! I get angry when I see something that I don’t think is right or fair and want to enter into a Facebook exchange with them to ‘right their wrongs’.  But lately something has stopped me……I finally took a step back and thought: has telling them how wrong they are EVER changed their minds and made them see the ‘light’?

THAT WOULD BE A BIG FAT NO.

Most of the time it becomes a heated exchange where both parties and sometimes even third parties go at it.  No one wins.  And, I don’t know about you, but I often feel agitated and annoyed. Sometimes it can even ruin my day!! And for what? Nothing has changed at all.

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Don’t get me wrong. I fully support that people have the right to express whatever they want…we do live in America. But behind the veil of Facebook we seem to have lost any sense of humility.  Being kind has been thrown out the window. Just because you might see someone else being a jerk online, does that mean we all have to be?

I have discovered a few wonderful ways that has changed the way I peruse Facebook.  This is not to say that I am not open to reading about other peoples thoughtful opinions that I don’t agree with….just the opposite.  I like leaning about other viewpoints, but when it gets to negative, angry and personal I am OVER it.

Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative!

I am choosing to only see the positive online and here is how I do it:

  • Follow only those feeds who make you happy and add something to your life.  If you are constantly annoyed or disagreeing with someone, maybe it is time to move on.
  • Re-evaluate your ‘friends’ list.  I have noticed that people I have not seen in over a decade keep popping up in my feed! Why do I even care what they think!! Sometimes saying ‘goodbye’ is the easiest thing to do!
  • If there is a certain post that is bothering you click on the top right corner of the post where the arrow is and ‘hide’ the post! It really is as easy as that! You won’t see it popping back up time after time.
  • If you really feel the need to engage….give yourself a five minute ‘timeout’ before posting.  Keep your comments positive and DO NOT under any circumstance personally insult your ‘friend’.
  • TAKE A BREAK FROM FACEBOOK.  Just stop looking at it for a while.  Remove the app from your phone.  If someone really needs to get a hold of you, they can call you!

Having an opinion and passion in our world is so important….and my guess is that we all have the best intentions too. Sometimes it’s not what we say but how we say it.

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My Selfie Dilemma: Not Sure of My Face in a Blogger’s Word

I am new to blogging. And I love it! Most of 2016 I was a contributor to a very well established blog and was able to write on a regular basis about all things being a mom.  I got some great feedback from readers and realized I might actually have a voice that people would want to hear.

So I took the plunge and decided to do my own blog! And here I am. I launched it almost two months ago. I am learning by trial-and-error (many, many errors). Slowly I am finding my niche.  And also, slowly people are checking my blog out!

One thing that has been my biggest hurdle is the whole selfie picture situation. Yes, on my social media I have had profile pictures of myself, but not many were actual ‘selfies’. I would often have to crop my face from a group picture. I’ve just never been a ‘selfie’ kind of person.

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Make-up and hair selfie

It’s not that I think I’m ugly…..I’ve just always been self conscious of taking a picture (or multiple) and posting them for the sake of posting them.  I am completely in awe of my friends who can post a beautiful and interesting picture of themselves!

But, with that being said, doing a blog about my family and my life obviously was going to entail taking pictures of myself (or having someone else take pictures of me).  Maybe I am comparing myself to other more established bloggers and don’t feel my pictures and composition are as good as theirs.  It will take time.

So far, I haven’t gotten any horrible feed back (think: wow! You have a huge double chin! Or, hey! Your fly is open)! For some reason I have this nagging thought that people are laughing at me behind my back, but to me this is a slow, self discovery process that has taken me years! When I was little, I was so shy! I seemed to gain a voice during college, but it really didn’t come out until after I had children. If anyone is really laughing at me behind my back……guess what? I don’t care! Laugh away!

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No make-up and hours after I had Henry.  I love this picture taken by my husband.

I am still a total novice at taking pictures of myself, and being in pictures…..but here are a few things I have learned along the way :

  • A little make-up goes a long way.  Under-eye concealer, mascara and blush help me look and feel great.
  • You don’t have to look ‘perfect’ for every picture.  No one is perfect.  Not being perfect can be more interesting.
  • Natural lighting is your best friend.  Using a flash can sometimes wash out your face.
  • Be conscious of your background! No one wants to see a dirty bathroom or a messy pile of mail behind you (unless it is part of your story)!
  • My husband is becoming a great photographer! He has no qualms about taking pictures and doesn’t feel the pressure that I do to take a perfect picture.  Often his casual snap turn out great!
  • Sometimes emotion can outweigh getting the ‘perfect’ shot.  Even if you don’t think you look great, showing real emotion can be very moving.
  • Use filters carefully! They can  be your best friend or worst enemy.  I prefer a little softening, but nothing that makes me look less human.

Do you take selfies? What do you do to make them look the way you want them to?

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