Wow! Time is a thief. This time last year I was 30 weeks pregnant and so overwhelmed (and excited, and exhausted) to say the least. Sadly my blog has been put on the back burner. I love my family, friends, writing for other blogs, and sleep….so something had to give. I’ve also had a ton of varying opinions about continuing my blog. Honestly I was feeling a bit down about it. For the better part of a year I have poured my heart and soul into it and didn’t feel like it had been getting any traction. But, I’m realizing at this point in my life I still love writing and need to start doing it for me. Not to get more readers or make a ton of money. Going forward I am going to write about and share things that I love! Which are basically my family, friends and pretty things.
What’s going on with us:
I cannot believe I am starting to plan Baby Whitney’s first birthday party! She’s not my little infant anymore. Crawling, teething and eating real food! I have a ton of mixed emotions. It is coming up so soon! I’m not doing a huge extravaganza with homemade everything. I have learned that Costco and Etsy are my friends. I can make the party super cute without having to lose my mind and sanity in the process.
I am also still in the middle of decorating our home we moved into last summer. You’d think that this would be easy, but this process is going slower then I had anticipated. Doing everything I want all at the same time was something that just wasn’t possible. I lacked time, energy and all of the money in the world to just snap my fingers and have it done. I don’t want to buy cheap looking stuff anymore, so I have to take my time and prioritize on the items I buy. I’ve decided to do the painting myself (gulp) to save money that I want to put into landscaping this spring. So, it’s coming room-by-room and wall-by-wall.
I am also back in the grind of my old training routine. I am working hard these days at the gym and hoping to see results soon. I feel like I am back to square one from where I was right after I had Henry two-and-a half years ago. I’m not going to let it get me down. I will keep working because if I did it once, I can do it again. Just keep me away from the Cadbury Creme Eggs please!
So, there it is. Our life in a few paragraphs. I’m going to keep it real and keep it simple.
I am new to blogging. And I love it! Most of 2016 I was a contributor to a very well established blog and was able to write on a regular basis about all things being a mom. I got some great feedback from readers and realized I might actually have a voice that people would want to hear.
So I took the plunge and decided to do my own blog! And here I am. I launched it almost two months ago. I am learning by trial-and-error (many, many errors). Slowly I am finding my niche. And also, slowly people are checking my blog out!
One thing that has been my biggest hurdle is the whole selfie picture situation. Yes, on my social media I have had profile pictures of myself, but not many were actual ‘selfies’. I would often have to crop my face from a group picture. I’ve just never been a ‘selfie’ kind of person.
It’s not that I think I’m ugly…..I’ve just always been self conscious of taking a picture (or multiple) and posting them for the sake of posting them. I am completely in awe of my friends who can post a beautiful and interesting picture of themselves!
But, with that being said, doing a blog about my family and my life obviously was going to entail taking pictures of myself (or having someone else take pictures of me). Maybe I am comparing myself to other more established bloggers and don’t feel my pictures and composition are as good as theirs. It will take time.
So far, I haven’t gotten any horrible feed back (think: wow! You have a huge double chin! Or, hey! Your fly is open)! For some reason I have this nagging thought that people are laughing at me behind my back, but to me this is a slow, self discovery process that has taken me years! When I was little, I was so shy! I seemed to gain a voice during college, but it really didn’t come out until after I had children. If anyone is really laughing at me behind my back……guess what? I don’t care! Laugh away!
I am still a total novice at taking pictures of myself, and being in pictures…..but here are a few things I have learned along the way :
A little make-up goes a long way. Under-eye concealer, mascara and blush help me look and feel great.
You don’t have to look ‘perfect’ for every picture. No one is perfect. Not being perfect can be more interesting.
Natural lighting is your best friend. Using a flash can sometimes wash out your face.
Be conscious of your background! No one wants to see a dirty bathroom or a messy pile of mail behind you (unless it is part of your story)!
My husband is becoming a great photographer! He has no qualms about taking pictures and doesn’t feel the pressure that I do to take a perfect picture. Often his casual snap turn out great!
Sometimes emotion can outweigh getting the ‘perfect’ shot. Even if you don’t think you look great, showing real emotion can be very moving.
Use filters carefully! They can be your best friend or worst enemy. I prefer a little softening, but nothing that makes me look less human.
Do you take selfies? What do you do to make them look the way you want them to?